Hi Yana, Women who are in a healthy and happy relationship don't blurt out, "Hope it's not my husband." This says everything about her marriage and state of affairs. Your empathy speaks to your actions, compassion for your friend. The married guy is way out of line—so patriarchal, it's sickening. Stay in the realtionship buddy or have the balls to leave. Thanks for writing this, its BS when women are blamed for a man's actions. Women hating on women needs to stop.