Hi Erin, so many layers to this, thanks for posting.
I don't follow Ariana or celebs so did a quick Google search:)
It's not cool to tango with a married man or married woman. Goes both ways. Why does the public blame her (homewrecker) and he seems blameless? Both were separated in their relationships. What they chose to do, they share that responsibility and blame.
As for "boy, come on, put your lipstick on", this is way out of bounds. Agree with you.
AND she is part of her marketing machine. Society in out of control on privacy--needing to know everything. She has to reset boundaries and not when it only conveniences her.