Hi Ali, doing the inner work is the only way to break the trauma bonds and find your healing.
Making the decision to distance yourself is showing self-compassion and love. They will try whatever to make you feel guilty for no longer doing the toxic dance. Do what is best for you.
I’m learning to say No. I, like you, would be put into manipulative situations. One day when he tries to hand you the phone, you will find the courage to say, No, thank you and walk away with your self-respect. They will talk regardless. You no longer care and that is your moment of empowerment. Knowing you have healed. Wishing you all the best in your healing journey.