Gillian, a wonderful topic to bring to the forefront. YES we deserve a partner who gives a damn about what it does to us during and after. 100% agree that the key to a healthy sexual relationship is empathy, thoughtfulness and understanding. For womxn, at every stage of life, pain can be a monthly visitor, during pregrancy and labour, and doesn't show mercy during menopause... we sure go through a hell of a lot.