❤️ My condolences for your loss of a son, Catherine.
What a difficult situation to add to your grieving and loss.
We try to see options by searching for answers through what others do with the cremated remains of their loved ones. When this does not feel right, you must honour what does feel right for you.
What you do with your son’s ashes is your choice and right to make.
I heard a strong, No.
Boundaries in life and spiritually.
He came to you at nine, and began new chapter in his life with his new family.
I have empathy for a family who grieves for him because he is bloodline but that is not a reason to split him up.
Claiming ownership in that regard feels a violation of everything you are and have been for your son.
You are his family, his soul family chosen, and you must honour what he would want.
That the funeral home “forgot” is the first sign.
“Recycling box” is the second. The recycled box feels right because he was drawn to nature. What didn’t feel right is the idea of “recycling his remains”.
Your son came here to live out his one life. and his life will not recycle nor repeat. The brother is battling their own fear of abandonment. Lost his dad and his brother.
Wishing you find peace in the final decision you make.