❤️ Loved this!!!
You are not alone. Many of us have been in this situation. Everything you describe is familiar. And, no, you cannot keep cleaning up after him because it can lead to resentment.

The outside is a reflection of the inner landscape.

The projects begun and not finished, piles everywhere, missing things, chaos, confusion …. this is about him.
What he believes about himself.
And, you are not responsible for him or doing his inner work to figure out why he continues to make excuses.
He’s no longer living on his own. He choose to be a couple with you. Enough about that’s how I was then, blah, blah, blah. As a couple, he needs to hear and see you. We all change because of the relationships we choose.
So, yes, this is about change. It happens regardless:)

I went to couple’s counselling and also on my own. We can change how we react to situations when we know our why for staying.

(((( hugs )))))